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“It’s Not Us, It’s Our Communication Issues” Think about it: When you’re in a fight with your partner, does it keep coming back to one particular topic? Does the [...]

Relationship Matters: Claiming & Honoring a Core Truth Driving home on a Tuesday, a little after 5 p.m., my one-year-old looking out the window, I was thinking about the great […]

Healing In Relationship: Doing the Work Together Engaging in foundational change is challenging. Doing it alongside others is vulnerable. Therapeutic work gives way to foundational change but it [...]

  We live in an increasingly polarized world, filled with decoherence and drama. We live in a wonderful and beautifully complex world with myriad opportunities for exquisite resonance, [...]

PART III: The Ingredients of APOLOGY Throughout my life, I’ve come to value and cherish the sheer diversity and richness of individuals—I would say that there is nothing more amazing […]

PART II: The Ingredients of VALIDATION As I have continued to work with human relationships—both as a couples therapist and in my personal life—the importance of our differences, all the […]

PART I: The Ingredients of RUPTURE + REPAIR The intricacies of human connection propel our world, and as a devoted connoisseur of the human experience, I have come to appreciate […]

Parenting Matters: A Journey Toward Attunement Struggling as a couple can make parenting chaotic. Parenting is chaotic anyway! Many of us notice that we’re not showing up in the ways […]

How To Know If Couples Counseling Will Be “Worth It” Choosing to begin couples counseling can feel like a weighty decision—because it is. We all arrive where we are through […]

What Couples Therapy Isn’t: Debunking 5 Common Myths I’m in couples counseling myself, because my relationship is so important to me and because both my partner and I value continuing […]

Making Meaning: A Toolbox for Confronting Sustained External Decoherence The world is ending. There was a mass shooting in my hometown. There was terrible flooding that shattered my understanding [...]

Self Care, Community Care: Grounding, Meaning-Making, and Moving Through Parenting in this world is tragic.  So many of us are in a state of daily fight or flight, witnessing or […]

Self-Actualizing Through Relationship What do you think of when you imagine a self-actualizing, healthy, empowered self? I often find that our culture champions the idea of an individual who [...]

A Fellow Traveler: My Philosophy and Approach as a Couples Therapist It can be overwhelming to choose to see a therapist or counselor. There is much to consider and all […]

The First, Most Difficult Step: Making a Clean Complaint When working with couples, I often find that they are more than capable of understanding all the terms and concepts that […]